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Why Do Women Masturbate?

Yes, contrary to popular belief, women do masturbate. As is the case with men, there are plenty of reasons for women to lock the door and rub one out on their own. To help dispel some of the myths about women and masturbation, we’ve gathered some facts about the subject. Let us help clear away some of that fog.

  1. female-masturbationImproves Mood.

    Having an orgasm, via masturbation or intercourse, releases a variety of ‘feel good’ hormones, including dopamine and oxytocin. These help to create a natural high that improves women’s overall moods.  

    Having an orgasm via masturbation eliminates the pressure to perform or the stress that can occur while having sex with a partner.

  2. Helps with Sleep. Sex is a great way to exhaust yourself and fall asleep, but masturbation allows you to do the same thing without worrying about having to satisfy a partner at the same time. Masturbation, for both women and men, helps them to feel more relaxed afterward, making it easier to drift off to sleep.
  3. Can help with menstrual cramps. Orgasms cause the uterus to contract, which can help with the cramps that normal accompany monthly menstruation. Masturbation also increases heart and breathing rates, similar to exercise, which can also help to alleviate painful cramps. Many women exercise during their period specifically because it helps relieve cramps more effectively than any over the counter medication. Masturbation and orgasm has much the same effect.
  4. better-sex-lifeImproves Sex Life. One of the biggest problems that women have with sex isn’t the inability to orgasm with a partner: it’s the fact that they don’t know their own body.

    Masturbation helps women learn what works best for them while still enjoying all of the benefits of regular orgasms. It’s a win-win for both women and their partners, because if a woman is able to enjoy sex more, she is more likely to relax, achieve more orgasms, and be able to focus more on her partner as well.

    The more comfortable you are with your body, the better your sex life will be.

  5. Vibrators Come in Every Shape and Size. Masturbation doesn’t have to mean that men or women have to be restricted to using their hands. Vibrators and other sex toys come in just about every shape you can imagine (including a variety of fantasy-creature styles, if that’s what floats your boat) and there is definitely something for everyone. The best part: if you find something that doesn’t work for you that is fine! Not every toy works for every person, and there is definitely at least one toy out there that will satisfy your needs.
  6. Improves Sex Frequency.Masturbation gets a really bad reputation as a replacement for sex or something that you can become addicted to. On the contrary, masturbating on a regular basis can actually make you want to have more sex with your partner. The more you masturbate, the more you think about sex, so the more you think about sex, the more sex you want. Plus, it can be a great way to incorporate a little sensuality into your relationship when you or your partner isn’t in the mood.
  7. Multiple orgasms. This is pretty self explanatory: there is no reason, other than exhaustion, to stop at just one orgasm. Men may be limited to their single climax, but women are not restricted by such limitations. If you’ve got some time, don’t stop with just a quickie. Working toward multiple orgasms while masturbating is also a great way to learn what your partner will need to do to help you achieve the same result while having sex.
  8. No Negatives. There are, quite literally, no negatives to masturbation. You can’t get pregnant, which is one of the biggest things that cause women to shy away from sex. You can’t catch any sexual transmitted diseases. There are no negative side effects or anything that you need to worry about. Just lay back and enjoy yourself!
  9. It’s Awesome. This is the main reason both men and women masturbate: it’s freaking awesome. No strings attached orgasms are some of the best things in the world, and women enjoy it just as much as men do, if not more!

Conclusions

Hopefully we’ve managed to teach you something about women and masturbation.

Yes, women masturbate.
It’s not something that is limited exclusively to the male gender, and it really doesn’t deserve the negative reputation that it has garnered over the years. Masturbation is awesome. Period.

Adding Sex Toys to the Bedroom – Good or Bad Idea?

Sex toys can be a great way to add a bit of spice to your masturbation sessions, but do they also make really good additions to the bedroom when you’re with a partner?

sex-toysDo they really add something to your sexual encounters or are they going to leave you feeling inadequate?

We’ve gathered a few tips and tricks to help you add sex toys to your intimate encounters.

Note:
Do not think that your toys are going to replace you.

The whole point of bringing sex toys into the bedroom for either partner is to enhance your sexual experience together.

By bringing some new toys into the bedroom, you can easily spice up your sex life and bring your collective orgasms to an entirely new level.

  1. Communicate. Don’t just drop a new toy or gadget on your partner. You’ve got equal chances of being met with interest and revulsion, and sex toys are not generally returnable. Before you go toy shopping, make sure you talk with your partner.

    Discuss what sort of things you want to add to your sex life and what toys you would like to try to achieve those things. You may be surprised with how open your partner is to the idea, but it’s important to broach the subject with them before you go shopping.

  2. Start slow. If you want to try something new, start out slow and work your way up. If bondage is the newest thing you want to try, don’t spend a ton of time learning shibari rope styles when you’re not even sure if you or your partner are going to end up liking it.

    Buy some comfortable rope cuffs or some fuzzy handcuffs and start from there. It’s quite literally like learning to walk; if you jump right into running a marathon, you’re going to hurt yourself, possibly badly. Start at a walk and work your way up in to the really exciting stuff. Besides, the anticipation of trying something new makes it even more exciting!

  3. SPEAK UP! Don’t continue using a new toy or technique if you don’t enjoy it or it makes you uncomfortable. All that’s going to do is ruin your desire to continue having sex. If you don’t like something, make sure you speak up and let your partner know so you can either adjust it so it’s enjoyable or leave it out altogether.
  4. Use what you have. If you’re thinking about adding toys to the bedroom but don’t want to invest a ton of money, consider using what you already have on hand. Panties or other undergarments can make great make-shift restraints. Cell phones can double as vibrators, even without spamming phone calls to keep it active: most smart phones have vibrator apps that you can download. Even the innocent bobby pin can double as an adjustable nipple clamp!
  5. shop-togetherShop together! Don’t just start picking up random toys without consulting your partner. Instead, start planning a joint shopping trip. Not only does it give you a chance to communicate your preferences, shopping together can really ramp up the mood and make your toy introduction even sexier.
  6. Find out if she already has one. Most women own at least one toy, for use when they’re on their own or with a partner. If you’re interested in adding toys to your sexual encounters, try asking your partner if they already have one that they really enjoy using. If she’s interested, try adding her personal toy to your sexual escapades. She already knows that she enjoys this toy, so adding it to your encounters has the potential to make her orgasms totally mind blowing.
  7. RELAX! Just like any other encounter, adding toys to the bedroom is only fun if you RELAX! Stressing out over the toys or over having sex will make it harder for you to enjoy yourself, and if you’re stressed out mood spreads, it can ruin the entire evening! Don’t focus on the toys, just do what feels right and everything else will fall into place.

Don’t get discouraged if your partner isn’t interested in bringing toys into the bedroom. While they can be a great tool to help increase your enjoyment and make your orgasms even greater, not everyone is comfortable with them. And remember: they aren’t the only way to spice up the bedroom! Just remember to talk to your partner, and once you know what you both enjoy, feel free to be a little creative!