Looking for love is hard, especially in today’s world where we’re both constantly connected and constantly separated by our reliance on technology. Online dating can be a useful tool, but it also put the user at risk of meeting a person who’s addicted to sex. Here we’ve collected a few useful bits of information to help you identify sex addicts before you become involved in a relationship that you might come to regret.
What is a Sex Addict?
Sex addicts are defined as individuals who continue to indulge in sexual activities even when these activities cause physical or emotional pain. Those individuals often seek more and more dangerous sexual behaviors until they progress to the point of becoming sex offenders.
These behaviors can but don’t always include:
- Illegal Exposure
- Compulsive Masturbation
- Pornography Addiction
- And others
Why don’t sex addicts just stop having sex?
Sexual addiction is not something that the individual is in control of. It is an often irreconcilable compulsion that cannot be controlled, redirected, or avoided. These compulsions can sometimes be managed by following a Twelve Steps program, similar to the programs that are offered to help alcoholic or narcotics addiction sufferers.
Is it really a serious problem?
Sex addicts often find themselves stuck in situations where they hurt those that they love. Sex addicts have lost their jobs and even been arrested due to their behavior. It’s as much an addiction as alcohol, drugs, or gambling, and it requires the same sort of support and treatment to overcome. Unfortunately, unlike drug or alcohol addiction, sex addiction comes with a stigma that causes these addicts to hide their addiction, or attempt to deal without any sort of support, making it nearly impossible to overcome the addiction.
What treatment options are available to help treat sex addiction?
The most common treatment used to professionally treat sex addiction is known as cognitive behavioral therapy or CBT. These therapy sessions help the addict learn techniques that can help them identify the events or behaviors that trigger their behaviors. If the behaviors are severe enough, they may require inpatient treatment, where the patient is restricted to a care facility until their behaviors can be controlled.
If therapy alone is not enough to help control the behaviors, prescription medications can be prescribed. Antidepressants, mood stabilizers, and other medications can help treat the symptoms of the addiction, as well as other mental illnesses that can manifest because of the addiction, such as depression and anxiety.
There have been some studies that suggest that the medication Naltrexone, which is used to reduce the effect of narcotic medication and addiction, can be useful in treating sexual addiction because it causes a marked decrease in sexual compulsion s and sex drive.
So, how can I know if I’m dating a sex addict?
While it’s impossible to diagnose a sex addict just by spending time with them, there are a few things that you can look for to help you figure out if you’re dating a sex addict.
- They never tell the same story twice, and you may find some inconstancies in their stories. If all they’re telling is lies to everyone, it gets hard to keep everyone’s story straight.
- Preoccupation with unsafe sex. If you’re not in a committed relationship and you’re not planning on starting a family, then there’s no reason to have unsafe sex. If your partner starts insisting on it, they may be fixating on the thrill of unsafe sex, which is a sign of sex addiction.
- No Time Alone. Serial dating is often a sign of a sex addict. The addicts jump from partner to partner, often cheating on the partner that they’re currently with.
- You’re asking. If you’re asking whether or not you’re dating a sex addict, then there’s a good chance that your partner has given you reason to think about it. If you feel like you’re in an unsafe or unhealthy relationship, it’s important to start eliminate those toxic people from your life.
If you’re worried that you might be dating a sex addict, then you should take the time to step back and consider your relationship. Sex addiction is a real issue that needs to be addressed, but it’s not something that you need to risk damaging yourself to repair.